The Journey of Preparation to Singleness, Marriage & Intimacy With God
Day 22: STOP THE CYBERSTALKING
Have you ever found yourself checking a person you may like or have a crush on social media platforms obsessively. I mean beyond the normal. You are checking who they are with. Creating their timelines. And listing what they like in a word document.
Or have you been the recipient of someone's infatuation? They DM you every day, multiple times a day, and get angry when you don't reply.
Have you ever made negative opinionated comments regarding an individual, group or organization? Simply because they didn't believe in the same thing you did, or did something you didn't agree with.
If you said yes to any of the above you may be considered a cyberstalker. You have an emotional connection whether good or bad that has become unhealthy for your spirit, mind and body.
This blog has bubbled up because I have gotten one to many proposals, God said you my wife, hey sexy, and baby why you ignoring me one too many times.
It can be beneficial, both socially and professionally, when you carry out communication through social networks and other online platforms. However, if you’re not careful, it can lead to numerous undesirable consequences, one of which is cyberstalking.
Today’s Lesson: Use the platforms of social media to enhance your life, not be your life!
Cyberstalking is the use of the Internet or other electronic means to stalk or harass an individual, group, or organization. It may include false accusations, defamation, slander and libel. It may also include monitoring, identity theft, threats, vandalism, solicitation for sex, or gathering information that may be used to threaten, embarrass or harass.
Although most cyber gazing is harmless, those who are on the journey of singleness, marriage and intimacy with God must use the Internet or other electronic means in an intentional purposeful driven way.
Our lives should not be governed by what is going on on social media. Living to scroll up and down, swipe left and right spending countless hours cyber gazing all together, let alone on someone you are infatuated with. This includes people you may know or people you desire to know, such as celebrities, ministry leaders and the like.
To help minimize the likelihood of becoming a cyberstalker, have an amazing life not just online but mostly offline.
Ways to decrease cyberstalking
If you are the one who checks your Facebook or Instagram feed every time you get a notification, maybe it’s time for you to fast from those platforms.
In regards to having a crush on someone and wanting to see what they are doing, and if they have liked your post. Again if you are emotionally connected to what they do or don't do, you might need to take a break and spend time with you, or if you are married, spend time with your spouse, but most of all spend intimate time with God. Allow him liking every post you place and every picture you take to be enough for you.
Spend an entire day without checking your crushes timeline, or making a negative or controversial comment regarding an individual, group or organization.
So in rounding today’s blog up! You may not be fully defined cyberstalker, only you know that. However if your a cyber stalker or not it won't hurt to spend some time offline to refresh your mind in order to be present in your real and right now moments. I promise you will feel liberated! Until tomorrow, say no to #cyberstalking
With Beautiful Love