The Journey of Preparation to Singleness, Marriage & Intimacy With God
Day 35: CAN I TRUST YOU?
The members of the weekly therapy group I host has asked for me to discuss the topic of relationships. So today as I was preparing for our session tonight the subject of trust arose.
I reflected on the many clients I have counseled due to relational conflict, that have ended in emotional and sometimes physical trauma. This includes domestic violence, divorce, separations, sibling rivalry, and the list can go on and on.
And as I pondered I posed the question. Can this phenomenon of relationship distress decrease if we as individuals understood the true meaning of trust.
But what is trust?
Trust is defined as having a firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something.
Wow! This definition of trust places a different spin on relationship building. You can never trust a person at first glance or at first meeting, yet many of us do. We call people friends, and share our personal details and intimacy openly with people who just clicked a button to like our post.
I found even for myself I use to trust instantly. If someone appeared likable, by saying the right things and doing the right things, they were my instant friend. However what I learned the hard way, was that not vetting these individuals with time caused me to be betrayal and hurt. All because I trusted them to quickly.
Today’s Lesson: Being friendly doesn't mean you are friends. Trust is the guide to how your relationships should evolve or dissolve.
Here are ways to ensure to establish and maintain healthy relationships protected with trust in your journey of singleness, marriage and intimacy with God:
Identify & Compartmentalize all your relationships
Stay true to your Core Values
Follow through on your Deal Breakers
In the next couple of days I will discuss each of these areas in more detail. Until tomorrow build trust not likes.
With Beautiful Love