The Journey of Preparation to Singleness, Marriage & Intimacy With God


This morning I was in deep thought asking myself,”Why do I do the things I do? Have you ever gone down a list of your current behaviors and actions that you do and asked, why?

  • Why am I on social media?

  • Why do I still associate with that person?

  • Why do I want to get married?

  • Why am I a Christian?

  • Why do I live here?

  • Why do I go there?

  • Why, why, why

Sometimes we do things just because our parents did, or because our culture, family and spouse does it. But we don't have the understanding to why we do it also. Every behavior is fueled by a motive. When you are unaware of your driving motive, the wrong motives can creep in and sabotage the happiness of life.

Today’s Lesson: Check your motives at the door, before you go in!

Before we make any decision, before we take action, before we get upset about a matter, let's check our motives to why we are making that decision, taking that action are upset regarding a matter. Because if our motives are not in alignment with our purpose we are on the fast track to disappointment.

On this 365 day journey of singleness, marriage and intimacy with God, this is a great time to be transparent with yourself. If you can't be honest with you, you are not in a healthy place. Remind yourself that you are safe and you will be alright with your answered, then answer your why’s.

Motive Check:

Do I want to get married just to have legal sex. Am I a Christian because I love the accolades I get when I preach. Am I associated with that person because they are my ticket to meet the person I really want to meet, so I put up with them. Am I on social media because I have a low self esteem and I need the likes from strangers to validate me and make me feel important.

When you discover your motive behind your why’s, you must then make a decision if you are going to stay committed to this motive or change it. It’s up to you. But for happiness sake check your motives at the door before you go in. You are an adult and you can make your decisions, but make sure you are well aware of your motives that fuel them.

Until tomorrow motives check!

With Beautiful Love


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