The Journey of Preparation to Singleness, Marriage & Intimacy With God
Day 91: ARE YOU REALLY MY FRIEND?
Have you ever had a conversation with someone who calls themselves your friend yet the conversation is always centered around them? You tell them about the issues on your job, they counter it with the issues on their job. You ask for prayer regarding your need for healing they tell you all about their current ailments. You discuss your breakthrough blessings, and they talk about theirs, never once just being with you to pray, encourage, and celebrate you.
After having an encounter with a friend like this I left the meeting wondering “Lord is this person really my friend?”
Today’s Lesson: Meet them where their at, and leave them better.
I believe we all have had this type of friend or have been this type of friend at one point in time.
During the journey of preparation to singleness, marriage and intimacy with God what does it mean to meet them where their at and to leave them better?
It means to know who you are among. You can't expect all your friends to be the same. Some friends are not great communicators. Not saying they don't know how to talk. They may know how to talk a lot, yet they don't know how to listen. So don’t expect deep conversations to be two way.
Others are not able to follow social cues. You can be giving them all the signals that you are done with the conversation but they just keep on. With them just be direct. “I don't want to hear about your uncle Bubbu one more time”.
“Leave them better” is when you give them more of Jesus. What does this mean, just that. When you see that the relationship is one sided you don't need to cut them off if you value that relationship. Just keep Jesus in the center. Share a scripture, begin to pray or simply say. "What would Jesus do?" or “Jesus would say or do this” It’s a sure way to either end the one person relationship or end the relationship altogether. Either way it’s a win-win.
Relationships are two way, synergistic and have an ebb and flow. If your relationship is a steady steam going in one direction you may need to renegotiate that relationship.
Until tomorrow meet your friend where their at and give them more Jesus. It will keep your heart guarded.
With Beautiful Love