The Journey of Preparation to Singleness, Marriage & Intimacy With God
Day 111: MUST LOVE BOOKS
There is a movie entitled “Must Love Dog”, which is when the sister of Sarah, who is 40 and recently divorced woman, creates an online dating profile for her to help her get back into the dating scene. Although this is a hilarious romcom it depicts a truth that we on the journey of preparation into singleness, marriage and intimacy with God need to live by in order to have a successful and meaningful life.
When the sister created the profile for the online dating database one of the criteria she stated was that the man “Must Love Dogs”. What was she doing? She was establishing her sisters non-negotiables upfront.
Today’s Lesson: Communicate your non-negotiables upfront. Don't leave anyone guessing on what want's you happy!
Don't hope the other person will read your mind, or will just know and will be the perfect someone. This is faulty thinking when it comes to any type of relationship.
If you know that somethings are a must to make you happy in a relationship, you must communicate this to your partner. Don't get well into marriage and end up at a couple therapy session stating “I never liked it when you did….” If you never liked it why didn't you tell that person? Why did you suffer for 1, 10 and 20 years then end up at the point of no return.
If you don’t know your non-negotiable then you need to identify them so that you will know upfront what to communicate when you are at the initial phases of your relationships.
If you are already married, have a discussion with your spouse regarding their non-negotiables too. Turn this activity into a date night experience.
As for the intimacy with God. Discuss your heart of what you want and need from Him, and then listen to what He wants and needs from you. Intimacy at it's finest!
Side note, if my future King and forever love is reading this blog….You Must Love Books! (reading them that is lol) I love a well learned man! Hint hint wink wink!
Until tomorrow make your life a happier life and communicate upfront what you want.
With Beautiful Love