Day 120: DON’T FORCE IT!
The Journey of Preparation to Singleness, Marriage & Intimacy With God
Day 120: DON’T FORCE IT!
Remember yesterday’s blog when I was awaiting my flight at the airport. Well just so happens my flight was cancelled due to tornadoes in the location of my destination.
Disappointed in my well desired and planned trip, I went on a quest to find a way to my destination. The airlines gave me multiple options, that included taking a flight to another location and participating in a 20 hour layover then flying into my destination the following day. This would have had me in an airport for three days. Another option given to me was to return the next day, fly into another destination with a 5 hour layover then also arrive a day later. Having me in the airport for two days.
If this sounds crazy believe me it was. However, what was even crazier I really thought about choosing these crazy options just to get what I wanted. All the while I hear the Lord saying “go home”.
Here it was the airline staff, my host at my destination and myself are attempting to make a way for me to make it, and I kept hearing the Lord telling me to “go home”.
Today’s Lesson: Don't force it! If it’s meant to be it will be!
This is a hard pill for many of us to swallow, especially on our journey of preparation into singleness, marriage and intimacy with God. When we get excited about a prospective future special someone in our lives we want to run down the aisle the next day (exaggeration intended). We are willing to change our schedule for them, ignore our deal breakers, and pretend to like their annoying friends just to make it work.
When we are married and want to start a family we want children right now. We force intimacy and check for pregnancy directly after, only to feel despair when it shows another negative test result.
When we are on fire for the Lord and our spouse is simmering on low temperature we want them to change instantly. We pour blessing oil in their food, drink, clothes, shoes and invite the pastor over for deliverance ministry sessions at the home.
But God is saying to us don't force it. For when you try to force something it can sometimes backfire on you.
I’m reminded of an old acquaintance of mine who had about 5 kids with the same man out of wedlock. She was saved but he was not. One day the father of the children decided to finally marry her after she insisted with pressure of threats to leave him. So she went to our pastor and asked him to facilitate the ceremony. The pastor told her to wait. She decided she didn't want to wait and they went to the courthouse and got married. Shortly after they were divorced. Today he is remarried, raising all of the children, saved and on fire for the Lord. She unfortunately is not.
We don't always know why God doesn't allow things to happen when we want them to, or why He has us to wait for something to happen. But what is apparent we should never try to force something He has allowed not to happen.
Until tomorrow just go home, if it’s meant to be it will be.
With Beautiful Love