The Journey of Preparation into Singleness, Marriage & Intimacy With God
Day 194: FRIENDLY FIRE FREE HOME
Continuing the discussion on the “LORD IS THIS A SIGN OF MY FUTURE? (10 keys to ensure a forever kind of love) (Day 186)
Being a Marine Corps veteran one of the most fascinating and at the same time devastating concepts I learned about, regarding combat, was friendly fire.
Friendly fire is an attack by a military force on friendly or neutral troops while attempting to attack the enemy.
Did you know the war in Afghanistan began due to friendly fire?
On Dec. 5, 2001, two months after the U.S. invasion, a massive 2,000-lb. bomb killed three U.S. Special Forces north of Kandahar. The GPS-guided weapon struck the Americans because the controller on the ground who called in the air strike changed the battery on his GPS device in the middle of the bombing run. But he didn’t realize that once the unit rebooted, the aim point it began transmitting to the B-52 bomber far above wasn’t the enemy’s location. It was his.
Today’s Lesson: Fight’s fare
On the journey of singleness, marriage and intimacy with God, you will have annoyances, disagreements, arguments, and conflicts with your spouse, however don't fight them as if they are the enemy.
When you fight with your spouse in anger, hateful retaliatory ways you are hurting your ally, your partner, your friend, and in essence yourself.
The married couples I encountered were not void of hard times within their marriage that created pain, either through the individuals decisions, behaviors or way they treated them, but what each has shown, which has created a long lasting love marriage is their ability to decide to fight fair in the midst of their marital battles. A few guidelines they have used:
Take a break from each other when angry and return to communicate needs, and feelings.
Agree to disagree
Using I statements “I’m angry because you said or did this” Not “You made me angry” because no one can make you do anything, you choose to be angry.
No physical, emotional or sexual abuse
So until tomorrow you may disagree with your spouse and not like what they do id so still #fightfair
With Beautiful Love