Day 195: CAN WE TALK?
The Journey of Preparation into Singleness, Marriage & Intimacy With God
Day 195: CAN WE TALK?
Continuing the discussion on the “LORD IS THIS A SIGN OF MY FUTURE? (10 keys to ensure a forever kind of love) (Day 186)
Key #9
“It is remarkable, I ask him a question and he openly answers, even if he thinks it may be hard for me to hear. I feel closer to him now than we ever have been before”
Today’s Lesson: Communicate
The youngest couple of my married couples have sprung upon the most powerful gateway to intimacy imaginable, that all my other couples live by, and that is healthy honest communication.
Good communication is the foundation of a strong and healthy love marriage. The absence of it is the simplest yet powerful bad habit that gets couples into trouble. Many marriages could be saved if spouses improved the ways they communicate with each other.
Healthy honest communication in a marriage is a place of vulnerability yes. Is a place of transparency, oh yes. Is a place a fearfulness, sometimes. Is a place were God is revealed in your love, all the time.
It is not a place to hurt or harm your lover. Neither a space to disrespect them, or embarrass them negatively.
On the journey of singleness, marriage and intimacy with God, healthy honest communication is needed for intimacy in all three of these relationships. As for you marriage there is no exception.
Ways happy long lasting love marriages build their communication:
Be intentional about spending time together talking
Use more “I” statements and less “You” statements
Be specific
Avoid mind reading
Express negative feelings constructively
Listen without being defensive
Freely express positive feelings
Give daily appreciations
Practice mindfulness when your together
Listen actively
Run to the positive
Embrace the power of the time out
Ask questions
Use physical contact, the good kind (hold hands, hug, make love, ect.)
So until tomorrow don’t be scared to say or hear the phrase #canwetalk, for it is the best question you can ever ask during your love story.
With Beautiful Love
Jacquelyn
